Repost: Letter from Abusive Mom

(This is a REAL e-mail my mother just sent me. I have been listening to this stuff from her for years and my Psychiatrists, Therapists, and I, believe it is a major factor in my current anxiety and depression issues)


How long is this agony going to continue? Everyone tells me not to write you and certainly not to read your blog...you have to realize there is my point of view also...it's not right that you just spout on about your point of view: 1. You DO have a family...but, you don't want them. I have offered time and time again to come and get you but you will have nothing of it. You won't even meet me for lunch, for God's sake. All you want from me is MONEY. 2. You are not an addict just because of your back. I warned you that your family on the maternal and fraternal side had abusive alcoholics.... That fact has affected all of us. Why do you think I've chosen abusive men as mates? Oh well, at least, you have admitted that you are abusive, also. I guess that is a start.

You do have a home. I bought this house with a pool house for you to live in or at least stay in, when you
were visiting.

GIVE IT UP! Call me and get back in recovery...or do you want me to arrange for you to return to the Orloff House (at least, that seemed to work for awhile....)

I could not afford to keep Kearny. You don't seem to understand that. Don't you think I would have loved to have kept it. How do you think I felt when I had to sell it? You practically bankrupted me. If my dear mom hadn't left me some money I would have gone under. I am 64 (almost 65) and am still teaching. Do you think I am teaching for fun? Well, I am stable now financially and I'm not going broke because of you. You are old enough to earn your own money and stop living off the public teat.

If I sound mad, I am. This nonsense has gone on for almost twenty years now. Yes, since you were ten. I like the way you start your bio at 15 at UC Berkeley. What went on the five years before then? Your being kicked out of two schools, dropping out of two and running away from home and two other programs. I was by myself with no support and Dad was making my single life very difficult. You could have helped me then (as other kids have chosen to do with their single parents) but no, you had to make my life more challenging than ever.

ACCEPT THE THINGS YOU CANNOT CHANGE (me, Dad, Tom, Terry, Kearny house gone), CHANGE THE THINGS YOU CAN (your future)

(I know you don't believe it but I love you and always have) You break my heart,

Mom